Eleanor Roosevelt was a first lady of the United States (March 4, 1933 – April 12, 1945). There are many lessons that I learnt from her. I would like to note down here. Hope there are something you can get from it too.
- By achieving an inner calm so that can work undisturbed by what goes on around me.
- By concentrating on the thing in hand.
- By arranging a routine pattern for my days that allots certain activities to certain hours, planning in advance for everything that must be done, but at the same time remaining flexible enough to allow for the unexpected.
- I try to maintain a general pattern of good health so that I have the best use of my energy whenever I need it.
- You must learn about your limitation.
- Learning to accept what other people are unable to give you.
- You must learn not to demand the impossible or to be upset when you do not get it.
- The only we can help people to develop is to let them do it themselves, trying to show them by demonstration, if we can, the things that are really needed. But to force anything upon an individual is rarely successful in helping him develop his own individuality.
- We should not compare ourselves with others, certainly we should not imitate them. I have often noticed that the person who has followed his true bent has more self-respect than one who has been forced into an alien mold. And without self-respect, few people are able to feel genuine respect for others.
Criticized by some one who
- Is seeking knowledge and has an open mind, then you naturally feel you must try to meet that criticism, that you must try to make an explanation, which may or may not satisfy the critic.
- Sheer malice and that no amount of explanation will change a point of view which has nothing to do with the facts, then the best thing is to put it out of your mind entirely, as though it did not touch you or your loved ones in any way. Close the door and turn to other things, knowing that nothing can be achieved by giving any further attention to it.
- Nothing ever happens to us except what happens in our mind. Unhappiness is an inward, not an outward thing.
- No relationship in the world ever remains warm and close unless a real effort is made on both sides to keep it so.
- Not to be sorry for yourself.
- Your fear in apprehension far more than you actually suffer in reality.
Get the best out of people
Nobody really does anything alone. There is comparatively little they can do entirely by themselves.
- Mutual respect.
- There is a great deal in learning the techniques of handling people and the earlier one learns it the better off he will be and the smarter his life will become.
- Some techniques are: seeing people, paying attention to them, being a good listener, put yourself into their place.
- If they think you are in need of their assistance and that you will appreciate it. They are apt to do their best to help fill your need.
- You must learn to deal with foreign people, not simply in our own way but with mutual respect and understanding and acceptance of their way.
The encouraging thing is that every time you meet a situation, though you may think at the time it is an impossibility and you go through the tortures of the damned, once you have met it and lived through it you find that forever after you are freer than you were before. If you can live through that you can live through anything. You gain strength, courage, and confidence in which you really stop to look fear in the face.
It requires effort to use all your potentialities to the best of your ability, to stretch your horizon, to grasp every opportunity as it comes, but it is certainly more interesting than holding off timidly, afraid to take a chance, afraid to fail.
Courage is more exhilarating than fear and in the long run it is easier. We do not have to become heroes overnight. Just a step at a time, meeting each thing that come up, seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared discovering we the strength to stare it down.
And finally, ask yourself “what are the thing that make you great satisfaction?” . All of us need both love and charity. There are both good and bad in all people and in all things.